What’s in it for us? (Millennial & a Middle-Ager)

 

 

 

 

What does a young & gorgeously fit millennial have in common with me, a 52-year-old woman, currently visiting my 17-year-old son,  in Tasmania, Australia? (At the bottom of the world I might add!) Astonishingly, we have a great deal in common. We both love to keep fabulously fit by taking long walks. We love beauty, nature & exploring different landscapes. We both suffer joyously from a remarkable curiosity about not only our own world around us but also, the world at large.

 

 

 

 

We both love dogs. I have a furry friend called Cognac & we take long walks together all the time, when I’m at home, in France.  Hilary also dreams to go adventuring with a loyal little furry friend by her side. In fact, we love all kinds of animals! & I’m quite sure we share a certain madness for fun times & loads of laughter, too!

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Hilary loves food, trying different little nooks that offer deliciously interesting dishes. And, so do I! I particularly enjoy Italian food & living in France, well…I’m blessed with cheese to die for! & really good wine! (Not to mention the pastries…)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our life goals, our sense of adventure, even our love for taking simple walks as well as our bigger goals; to keep on travelling, meeting new people & meandering awhile in the local life of a particular different country & absorbing the ordinary day-to-day life, sights, smells, food & customs is something that will always make our lives extraordinary… bridging OUR gap, making our friendship, an ageLESS one!  & I’m quite sure we will meet up in France, perhaps enjoy some time in Paris together.

We both love art, are creative, share many interests. We both love to write. of course Hilary is savvier than I am when it comes to technology & I’m thrilled I can ask her for help when I need it in this regard. Growing up as a child in the 70’s we had many advantages compared with children today. We played outside with other children from our neighbourhood, our imagination gave birth to many creative games & of course the odd game of cricket now & then. It was a good time to be young &, we WERE young! Of course, I love technology, too! & really appreciate its place in my life.

 

 

 

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I’m a positive thinker. Positive thoughts feed my soul & keep my inner world fresh & vivaciously alive! & it can’t help but keep one looking youthful. Joy on a woman of any age, adds such a sparkle of youth to not only a woman’s heart but her face! It’s the most attractive kind of beauty because it doesn’t fade, it can be found on many 90-year-olds! Laughter lines speak of beautiful, happy memories, cheerful markers that say… joy etched itself in my smile.

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I have a poet’s soul, so deeply sensitive to the profound beauty of life, people & what can be quite difficult at times…the feelings of others, their sadness or despair. I like to help others & so does Hilary. It’s perhaps the most meaningful thing we share & without a doubt the most rewarding & deeply fulfilling.

I love the way Hilary thinks, I like seeing life through the lens of her heart, she’s remarkably mature & has a beautiful vulnerability & openness which is so pleasantly refreshing. I think we’ve certainly ‘bridged the gap’ quite successfully & both feel the benefits of the different age blend. It’s a truly beautiful & rewarding one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“She threw away all her masks, & put on her soul.”

Confidence doesn’t come from what you wear. It’s true, a nice glam outfit helps, but eventually, that outfit has to come off & you are left with YOU. Be happy about that! I have stood naked in front of my mirror & faced myself, I wanted to wish those extra pounds away, I wanted to take ten years off my face, & what I had to acknowledge & do acknowledge is that I am who I am, warts & all, I am me. I am not perfect. That’s the key, fall in love with being YOU. There is no one on this planet like you. You are special. You are worth it! Don’t wait for others to give you that pat on the back or that praise from their lips, it all starts with how you talk to you. Adorn your inner self with the beauty of kind, gentle & supportive words. Clothes can’t do that.

I was talking to a woman the other day who has breast cancer. She is facing herself. I looked at this woman & thought…wow! This woman is truly beautiful. We sat & had a cup of tea together & as she spoke, I listened to her soul. There was such a mixture of fear, courage, tears & beauty, too. Her naked soul was openly exposed to me & she was frightened like a scared child. Everything she exchanged to me was real. Have we forgotten to be real?  Have we forgotten to have meaningful exchanges with people? To touch & comfort their suffering rather than just admire their outer garments! A truly genuine person revealing real feelings is very rare to find in a world that constantly bombards us with “Gotta be more, do more…you are not enough unless…” Bah! Don’t buy into it or you’ll never escape the knife of the plastic surgeon! YOU ARE ENOUGH! I think that is where it all begins, with YOU, not accepting the ugly, useless labels that society tries to slap on you. If you are 60 plus, great! Wisdom speaks from the lips of those who have walked this earth a little longer & what a fine adornment is that pearl of prudence, insight & respect, there is no outfit that can ever compete with such valuable qualities of the heart.

Personally, fashion does not dictate to me what I must wear year in & year out. I wear clothes that I like, I don’t follow the crowd & I prefer the truly timeless classics, a style that doesn’t date.

Just be your lovely self & KNOW you are lovely BEFORE you dress up glam! & when that outfit comes off, you will be left with you, someone uniquely special, someone who is real, who can be frightened, scared & courageous all at the same time. Collect real people, fake ones are a dime a dozen! In this life, when very scary things happen, you don’t need a glamour queen sitting across from you at the table, you do need someone who has got their real on way before they’ve ever got their fashion style on. Make up your inner wardrobe first, it is way more important than your clothes closet.  You can’t buy confidence, it can’t be found in a clothes store. Confidence is found within you, as you enjoy & appreciate the truly unique & beautiful person that you are.girl-2178157_960_720

French Women don’t Compare, They Admire. -Renata Huster-

I like that about French women. I like it a lot. It doesn’t matter what age, shape or size they are, if a drop dead gorgeous model is standing right in front of them, they won’t reach for their jacket to hide their muffin top, they will simply ADMIRE the other woman, her outfit & her shoes without comparing themselves to her. They won’t even ask where she bought her shoes because they know that style is a very individual thing, so those shoes look great on the model, she, however, has a very different style of shoe, SHE likes. The model rocks! & so does she! Remember too, comparing often leads to competing, that’s exhausting & a death knell to friendship. Admiring is always win=win!

A French woman likes her body. Her body is never fat! It’s voluptuously shaped,  curved…rounded. A French woman wears her sensuality well & effortlessly because she knows she doesn’t need to try, the mere fact that she was born a woman & all the deliciousness that comes with that, makes her feel highly desirable.

Bibi’ Macron (the current French president’s wife, her real name is Brigitte, but, really…there can only be one Brigitte. B.B.) is an older woman who is extremely comfortable in her own skin. I don’t hear anyone here, in France, mention the age difference between Monsieur Macron & her lovely self, (at 64, she is 24 years his senior ) Bibi is a woman & that alone makes her beautiful. It’s not about fat, thin, OLD, ugly or pretty! It’s simply about being a woman & everything gorgeously amazing that embodies, femininity, strength & gentleness.brigitte-bardot-396155_960_720

So, NEVER compare yourself to other women. Always ADMIRE.

 

 

 

 

The Scent of a French Woman

Long after one has forgotten what a woman wore, the memory of her perfume lingers. — Christian Dior

A French woman never leaves home without first applying a subtle dab of her favorite scent. It’s unheard of, it just doesn’t happen, it’s unthinkable! Beauty has a scent & French women are dedicated to wearing it.

I fell in love with the way French women choose their perfume, as if selecting a bouquet of flowers for a dearly loved one. It’s a highly personal affair & quite seductive to watch. & I have…from afar. They hold a bottle of perfume as if gazing at a lover’s hand.  Memories are held within that intoxicating potion, the light caress of a nose at the nape of her neck, followed by a satisfied, breathless sigh…

What are French women wearing these days?

I’m so pleased to say they are wearing my fav! Shalimar by Jacques Guerlain. It’s a deeply feminine fragrance, all woman! a heady mix of citrus/woody tones, it’s a romance!

 

Narciso Rodriguez for her. Men love it on women, enough said! (Ok, a very, very, VERY sensual perfume! And another one I love, too!) Coco Mademoiselle by Chanel. Quite an aristocratic scent, elegant, sophisticated & classy! And, Of course, Chanel No 5! Still a mysterious elixir of floral elegance, in a bottle. There are countless more potently beautiful mixtures! French women & perfume, they know it’s a very individual thing, they know the man they want to please. It takes a lot of lingering, just as a good scent should linger long, on a white linen sheet…pexels-photo-398069