Life is the Greatest Journey YOU will ever be ON, sprinkle a little of the ‘uncommon’ onto it

There are many people living unexciting, monotonous lives. What’s wrong with that? Why should that be a concern? Well, it’s a bit like going to sleep every night & choosing never to dream, ever! just sleep without ever experiencing the surprise, pleasure drama and revelation that dreams convey.

For many, it’s uncommon to choose adventure over a false stability, a need of assurance that everything will be as it always has been & the need for it to continue on just so… Life is a journey and a journey involves movement.

Many people fear change. They feel safer if they don’t take any risks. The thought of going on an adventure terrifies. Choosing something radically different, something they have never known or ever done before is never on their agenda, they want to stay in the ‘known.’ They eventually become immune to asphyxiation symptoms: drowsiness, boredom, fear of something unknown inviting them to experience its energy.

&, a lot of people are reasonably content to live like this.

Are you?

 

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The saying goes, ‘life is short.’ But when we think of the many, many experiences we can have, enjoy & grow from, well, it’s unfathomable really, isn’t it? to just choose a life that is the same, day in and day out.  It’s a phenomenal way to think that by doing something different, hopefully something we normally wouldn’t choose to do or go, that this one thing could open up a whole new world & challenge us in the best possible way = to grow!

I encourage change. It’s ok to be afraid of it. Start of slowly, take one thing or do one thing or go somewhere different & all that stale caution will gradually wear off, as you’ll acquire an appetite for change &, in change there is adventure, sometimes risk but, oh, look at what you gain! Insight, maturity, new friendships, challenges &, a ‘word’ that has a deeper meaning than happiness… fulfilment. In short. SATISFACTION.

I like to think we were all given a crayon box to colour our lives in with &, by using all the crayons in the box, what an interesting life you’ll have! If we do interesting things (many of those things are simple, simple things! inexpensive even!) we become interested in life. To go through the motions of life day in and day out and to choose to live this way because it’s safe or comfortable means that something in us that could have been, or could have ‘come alive’ never gets a chance to emerge & enrich our world.

For instance,  there are many ways to travel without leaving home. I’m going to write more on  that tomorrow.

It’s exciting to be alive! &, you know, just as we season our food, to add just a little flavour, so too, there are many ways we can  season our life experience by adding something a little ‘uncommon’ to it. I’m doing uncommon things, (uncommon for me) in my life & loving it! more on that tomorrow.

Enjoy your weekend & make it remarkable!  by doing something interesting .

 

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Get those crayons out & start colouring your life in!

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Allow Your Future To Unfold…

We only ever have NOW! Today, today & TODAY. Tomorrow is always future. It means we never wake up & say “It’s tomorrow!” because our ‘now time’ is always a today thing! &, as we get older, we begin to understand how precious it is to value our ‘now time.’

I  just got back from having a cup of tea down by the river, it’s a beautiful, balmy sunshiny day.  Sitting by a still quiet river, too, gives me good reason to reflect deeply about life, the people who are precious to me & how nice it is that I got to live! & be alive, NOW!

I thoroughly enjoy the sweet & simple things of life & the abundance of curiously interesting experiences  that have come my way. I swing my arms wide open & invite TODAY in to saturate my soul.

 

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I do however, remember when ‘tomorrow’ & what it might hold, became quite a serious distraction, anxious thoughts invaded my mind, it was  a real ‘nail biter’ of a time!  The result? instead of smiles I wore frowns.

You see, worrying about tomorrow does that to you, it burns daylight on your ‘NOW’ time & before you know it, your tummy gets all tied up in knots about ‘what might be ahead’ & the joy of living has left, without leaving a note.

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I know. Anxiety just doesn’t up & leave. After all, it’s been a welcomed guest! So, how do you shoo it away? Well, why not grab a coffee & find a nice quiet spot in nature &  think  about  future anxiety, what it ‘doesn’t do FOR you’ but ‘does TO you.’

It doesn’t make you smile. It doesn’t welcome the spirit of ‘hope’ in like an old friend. It makes you want to stay in bed. Life is for living, not fretting underneath the covers.

It swallows your life up in fear. It steals your sleep & invades your TODAY time; your ‘NOW TIME.’ It’s a comfortless enemy of the mind & wreaks havoc on the body. Isn’t it true, that most things you & I have worried about have not even happened! the catastrophe was averted or things were certainly not as bad as you had imagined they would be &, yes, somehow there was always a solution. Something or someone turned up to save the day!

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Like an untrained puppy our thoughts can run out of control, resting on frightfully scary scenarios! So, just like an untrained puppy we need to train our thoughts not to dwell in the land of FRET & FEAR about the future ( a healthy concern is OK, I mean having an inordinate fear of what lies ahead! ) but replace anxious thoughts about the future by staying & living in the HERE & NOW. The future will UNFOLD. Let it. Cross the bridge when you really need to cross it. Spend time in nature, think about what it is you’d like to enjoy doing & go do it, TODAY! Enjoy living your life TODAY, your moments, NOW!

Read that book, go for that walk, take that journey, start that course or learn to play that guitar, NOW. It doesn’t have to be amazing, it can be as simple as having a cup of tea down by the river. Live your TODAY & it will reward you with a life well lived.  Let the future unfold…

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If you do that, you will likely end up being, one happy puppy!

 

Turn Regret into GROWTH!

Regrets! we all have them. Things you didn’t do & things you didn’t say or things you DID do & things you DID say! Regret follows like a heavy dark cloud pregnant with tears & sad whisperings of “If only I didn’t…” or frustrating groans of “Why did I say that!” 21766424_10214980807538723_2244006853059587424_n

So, what’s to be done with that nagging voice full of lament, moaning as it drags its heavy sighs along the chambers of your heart, uncomfortably always ‘there’ never letting you forget?beautiful-lavender-field-free-photo-2210x1473.jpg

Learn from it. Turn your regret into GROWTH. We all have done stupid things & have said things that can’t be taken back. All of us. It isn’t the best way to learn but it is a way nonetheless, life has its lessons &, moving on from past mistakes however burdensome the backwash, is sometimes the only way ‘some of us’ (I think most of us) LEARN.  photo-1530130134620-e60c68df0bee

In essence, LEARN from it, GROW from it, FORGIVE YOURSELF, & finally! MOVE ON X

Rock bottom, why there’s nothin’ to fear!

What do you mean there’s nothing to FEAR? Who in their right mind wants to go there?!!! Well, usually, in time, we all end up there for hopefully a short stay, did I write short? No, it’s never short, quite lengthy & you never climb out as you fell in. 14495399_180595942383577_4754047562079935923_n

It’s a place where you shut down, life has opened up all those painful tabs in one go & all those feelings that were denied a “hearing,” protest! because they are so tired & worn out & you collapse under the weight of all those tears that just wanna cry! You can’t fight it anymore! life is asking for some “catch up” time & when you deny it, it will demand it & then, just take it = Welcome to ROCK BOTTOM.

Are you there now? Are you heading there? I’ll try to take the fear out of the place for you. Rock bottom is a “core” experience, there’s nothing fake or phoney about spending time there, it’s a  place you grieve over whats been lost IN YOU. You’ve been filling that hollow space with “whatever” it takes to stop you drowning in what I call a “true sadness;” loss of some special place within yourself. Your need for approval may have led you there, an abusive relationship grabbed you by the throat & threatened you to STAY… ‘Just a little longer’ & false promises whispered ‘All will change soon, stay…’ & you did & change didn’t happen. Or, Loss, a significant one may have occurred & there was no time for YOU to grieve because you were too busy being the strong one. Rock bottom wrote your name down & waited patiently for you to check in.

You don’t just sort through everything quickly at rock bottom & then pick yourself up & off you go galloping along life’s highway. There is no energy, not at first & not until you listen to those tears that want to cry & you ACTUALLY let THEM! Fear will rush over you like huge gargantuan waves & you’ll wanna stay in bed with the blankets over your head, for a while anyway. But then, something starts to slowly take place, you wake up one morning & a little bit of strength is felt, just a little but it’s a different strength & it’s a stable strength & you know that you can trust it. It’s what I call “the climb.” You see you climb out of rock bottom, each bar you grab & hold with your new “different” strength exercises the new found trust & confidence gained by spending time & rock bottom, grieving, sorting & finally accepting & after you do that, you start “the climb.”

You never climb out as you fell in. You are not denying yourself your right to be heard anymore & if you are attentive to you, you won’t again. If you’re there now, remember, it’s not a permanent place, there is so much hope at rock bottom, you just can’t see it now as you haven’t entered ” The Big Sort!” but, you’ll get there, you’re on your way. We usually all spend a little time at Rock Bottom Lodge & we learn so much about ourselves while there.  How to never ever allow anyone, especially ourselves, to shove what we value under a dirty carpet.

You matter. That’s the beautiful goodbye message rock bottom leaves you with, just as you’re about to finish “the climb.”

Cheers x

Change & why it’s a good thing!

Without change, you don’t grow. Without change, you don’t know…know anything new about yourself, change ruffles up the inner feathers & you get to see yourself react & respond, it might be negatively or positively & the result from either reaction, will be a move forward or a step back.

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Change is for our good. It might seem unwelcome at times & certainly unwanted but there is a lesson in the shift & you grow, growth is all part of the life experience & really, how safe are we if we choose stagnation instead of taking another turn & finding out more about ourselves & what life has to offer in another place or meeting new people who will no doubt bring a much-needed freshness into a space that has grown a little stale.

My life has been one of constant change. I shudder to think of what my life would have been like if I had stayed all my life in one place. I love the fact that yesterday, on a whim, off we went to visit a castle & then just drive through the countryside breathing in its freshness, scents & sights so intoxicating to the soul. It was a spur of the moment thing, a “Let’s do it!” Life breathes well when spontaneity is a regular dose in your life.

Change is always a bonus if it makes you simplify your life & free it up for more of what truly makes rich &, I’m not talking about money, it’s not things but experiences with those you love that bring an abundance of woohoo moments!

Change means you’re not standing still but moving forward in some way. So, don’t be scared when change comes a-knockin’, open that door & grow.

Cheers x

 

The BEST Beauty Ingredient…Focus on What YOU!!! ENJOY DOING!

It doesn’t matter what age you are, true beauty is a soul & heart thing! The soul is ageless. It’s where you will find your fountain of youth. & when you do things YOU enjoy & ditch things you’re only doing to make others happy, you will start to feel that oh, so feel-good state of well-being.

The first thing you will notice is that you will start to smile again! An honest to goodness smile that comes up all the way from your soul to your face & hey! doesn’t joy look beautiful on a woman?! Yup! It sure does x

 

 

One thing I’m thinking of doing that is totally new to me, is to join the local kayaking club. My neighbour, in her late sixties, asked me a few weeks ago if I’d like to come along to the club! As I’m doing an arm work-out at the moment, I thought, now there’s just the thing to keep my arms nice & taut! I’ll give it a try & if I enjoy doing it, bonus! then I’ll keep on kayaking!I like the fact, too, that kayaking will be a new challenge for me & thus, I’ll be stepping out of my comfort zone &, that’s always a good thing!

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What goals, new interests are you going to take up? I’ve come up with some ideas I like & some I won’t pursue but maybe you will!

  1. Join a book club. Or, better yet, create your own book club meet-up. You’ll make new gal pals of all ages &, sharing an in-depth discussion about a book you’ve all read will increase your appreciation about the way other people think as you probe deep into the story plot, much like mining for gems!
  2. Do you like to paint or draw? or write poetry? Join a class or create one. Put an ad in the local paper inviting other people for tea & cake or a glass of red, once a month, while you all paint, write or draw, together. It doesn’t have to be a solitary thing but it can be, it’s up to YOU x
  3. Grab the sax, pull out the old guitar, take up the flute or maybe the harp? So many of you are musical, if its been a long time, go play!
  4. Hiking is great, so good for your health & emotional well-being, too! Prepare a little backpack picnic & don’t forget the wine!
  5.  Dance! Just put the music on that makes your feet tap & grab your man or a group of friends & rock & roll!
  6. Like to sing? Be brave & go street perform!
  7. Start a prayer group. Pray for each other & think of ways you can help others.
  8. Gather. Gather. GATHER together, you & your tribe. Prepare a meal together & share your hearts.

Or, you can fall in love & have regular date nights x

 

 

Remember…focus on something YOU enjoy doing! Invite like-minded ones along, too, if you like!

When you wear that heady scent of satisfaction & find fulfilment in what you like & enjoy doing, you’ll have stirred the waters in that fountain of youth which is found in your soul.

Go do interesting things & then ‘nourish your flourish!’

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‘Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety.’ -Shakespeare’s Cleopatra.

Know any older women midlife & beyond, like that? Helen Mirren, 96-year-old, fashion icon, Iris Apfel, comes to mind and let’s, not forget Twiggy, at 65, she became L’oreal’s Ambassador for 2015! &, one of my absolute favs! The ever elegant & astonishingly beautiful, Carmen Dell’Orefice, at 87, she is a statement of hope & belief that ‘age cannot wither a woman.’ As you can see below. (images c/o Getty Images & Pinterest)

A woman of truly great poise. I see a deep fragility beautifully combined with a resolute strength, I hear it whisper…’Age cannot wither me!’

At 52, I can’t help but feel stirred on to greater things, productivity,  a certain bold ‘carpe diem’ takes hold of me & I am strongly touched & motivated by their examples. It means I don’t have to be a model, actress or fashion icon but it gives me a greater incentive to ‘Go for it GIRL!’ & keep moving forward with my projects.

‘Older women,’ will be a term of the past one day, we will simply be women. Thanks to these amazing ‘pioneers’ of hope & bold courage, for they are extracting that word ‘old’ & saying: ‘be done with it!’

Go THEM! Go YOU! Go US!

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