The BEST Beauty Ingredient…Focus on What YOU!!! ENJOY DOING!

It doesn’t matter what age you are, true beauty is a soul & heart thing! The soul is ageless. It’s where you will find your fountain of youth. & when you do things YOU enjoy & ditch things you’re only doing to make others happy, you will start to feel that oh, so feel-good state of well-being.

The first thing you will notice is that you will start to smile again! An honest to goodness smile that comes up all the way from your soul to your face & hey! doesn’t joy look beautiful on a woman?! Yup! It sure does x



One thing I’m thinking of doing that is totally new to me, is to join the local kayaking club. My neighbour, in her late sixties, asked me a few weeks ago if I’d like to come along to the club! As I’m doing an arm work-out at the moment, I thought, now there’s just the thing to keep my arms nice & taut! I’ll give it a try & if I enjoy doing it, bonus! then I’ll keep on kayaking!I like the fact, too, that kayaking will be a new challenge for me & thus, I’ll be stepping out of my comfort zone &, that’s always a good thing!


What goals, new interests are you going to take up? I’ve come up with some ideas I like & some I won’t pursue but maybe you will!

  1. Join a book club. Or, better yet, create your own book club meet-up. You’ll make new gal pals of all ages &, sharing an in-depth discussion about a book you’ve all read will increase your appreciation about the way other people think as you probe deep into the story plot, much like mining for gems!
  2. Do you like to paint or draw? or write poetry? Join a class or create one. Put an ad in the local paper inviting other people for tea & cake or a glass of red, once a month, while you all paint, write or draw, together. It doesn’t have to be a solitary thing but it can be, it’s up to YOU x
  3. Grab the sax, pull out the old guitar, take up the flute or maybe the harp? So many of you are musical, if its been a long time, go play!
  4. Hiking is great, so good for your health & emotional well-being, too! Prepare a little backpack picnic & don’t forget the wine!
  5.  Dance! Just put the music on that makes your feet tap & grab your man or a group of friends & rock & roll!
  6. Like to sing? Be brave & go street perform!
  7. Start a prayer group. Pray for each other & think of ways you can help others.
  8. Gather. Gather. GATHER together, you & your tribe. Prepare a meal together & share your hearts.

Or, you can fall in love & have regular date nights x



Remember…focus on something YOU enjoy doing! Invite like-minded ones along, too, if you like!

When you wear that heady scent of satisfaction & find fulfilment in what you like & enjoy doing, you’ll have stirred the waters in that fountain of youth which is found in your soul.

Go do interesting things & then ‘nourish your flourish!’




‘Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety.’ -Shakespeare’s Cleopatra.

Know any older women midlife & beyond, like that? Helen Mirren, 96-year-old, fashion icon, Iris Apfel, comes to mind and let’s, not forget Twiggy, at 65, she became L’oreal’s Ambassador for 2015! &, one of my absolute favs! The ever elegant & astonishingly beautiful, Carmen Dell’Orefice, at 87, she is a statement of hope & belief that ‘age cannot wither a woman.’ As you can see below. (images c/o Getty Images & Pinterest)

A woman of truly great poise. I see a deep fragility beautifully combined with a resolute strength, I hear it whisper…’Age cannot wither me!’

At 52, I can’t help but feel stirred on to greater things, productivity,  a certain bold ‘carpe diem’ takes hold of me & I am strongly touched & motivated by their examples. It means I don’t have to be a model, actress or fashion icon but it gives me a greater incentive to ‘Go for it GIRL!’ & keep moving forward with my projects.

‘Older women,’ will be a term of the past one day, we will simply be women. Thanks to these amazing ‘pioneers’ of hope & bold courage, for they are extracting that word ‘old’ & saying: ‘be done with it!’







What’s on me, in Spring!

I’m about to Spring clean my wardrobe. Not an easy task, by any means! Last year, while away in Tasmania, Australia, I bought lots of fab clothes & shoes! It was Spring in Tasmania but a cold, cloudy one.

As I live in the SW of France, I know I’m  guaranteed a lovely, warm Spring season, & I had that in mind when I went shopping “down under.” Well, Spring is nearly upon us, here, in France, and, it’s time to pack my Winter clothes away!

Firstly, I’ll start preparing my shoe robe. In Spring, I like to wear flats with cigarette pants (trousers) & a nice breezy top. I like casual elegance & am a huge fan of leopard print flats, they never fail to add a hint of sophisticated oomph! to any outfit. I like, too, funky shoes for faded pale blue jeans & a white shirt, not a stiff & starchy one but again, I’m always going for a “comfy” elegance. after all, Spring can get quite hot in France!



Next… Spring invites white dresses,  light frocks & skirts! It’s a fun season & you can go nuts!!! on throwing things together to make gorgeous, eclectic ensembles! Jeans, shabby chic with white always looks amazing & such a timeless look, too! Add some fab accessories, a big lemon bangle & large hoops earrings or something I love; a huge turquoise necklace & “voila!” you’re def rockin’ & a-rollin’ to the beat of Spring!




I’m 52. I encourage you if you are an older woman to throw your two digit number out the window & simply BE! if you like it, wear it. You’re an original. It’s a fact. Love it.

Get ready to welcome in the cheery season of Spring with a “spring” in your step & your wardrobe x



Spring is in the air! (even if it’s raining!)


I’m doin’ the countdown to Spring big time this year! Hubby & I spent 3 months in Tasmania, Australia, last year. Tasmania is an astonishingly picturesque island, truly beautiful  &, even though it was Spring when we were there, it actually felt like Winter. Cold, blustery days & lots of moody grey cloud. Of course, NOW, in France, we are only days away to Spring & it seems a weepy & sulky French sky is bidding Winter good-bye!


Cherry trees are plentiful here, so much so that we pick copious amounts of them and Rob makes cherry liquor which we give as away as gifts at the end of the year. We have a cherry tree, too, it’s about to bud! The things in life that give us such remarkable joy are usually the most beautiful & delightful.  The French would say, “Extraordinaire!”




Our garden, too, is about to burst into a beautiful bouquet of colour. We prepared it well.  You see, Rob & I had a plan! When we were in Tasmania, we spent a lot of time at the botanical gardens, we took our books on days when the sun actually came out & STAYED! & we read, ate lunch there & then did our tour of the gardens & it was while we were admiring a particular section of garden (can’t quite remember exactly which one as we find all the gardens exceptional!) that we decided to turn our little patch of France into a beautiful one & so we rolled up our sleeves when we came back & got stuck into it! daffs, ranunculus, poppies, cosmos, heaps of lavender & hydrangea & many other colourful flowers are about to peel their Winter garb off & welcome Spring IN, as only a garden can!


14 days to go! Whoohoo! In the meantime, we console ourselves by picking bunches of daffs in the countryside & so far, our kitchen table hasn’t missed a bunch!


Rob’s making lunch. We both have colds. & even if it is a rainy day & the sun is teasing us by ducking in & out of a bad-tempered cloud, we have each other.


Tomorrow I’m going to chat about what to wear in Spring. I guess, it’s an individual thing, so, it’s really about what I’m going to wear in Spring & if you need some tips…help yourself!

Cheers! Oh, that’s not very French!


A bientôt!

My “Little Italy” in France

I’m back! It seems an age since I’ve last written & in truth, I’ve had at least a 6-month pause…

I got married! how fabulous is that?! I married my Italian man, in Australia &, am now back home, in France, where we live, in a little village by the river, in the French countryside. It sounds nice & quaint &, it IS!

My man is quite a bit older than me & he’s Italian, too, what a bonus! Not only is he devoted to me BUT he can cook! He’s a great cook, too! Each morning he rises say, about 6 am & he heads straight to the kitchen. I kid you not! (told you he was devoted & not just to me, to EVERYONE & EVERYTHING he values! nice, huh?) So… my nose is aroused by around 7 am to absolutely scrumptious &”deelish” aromas wafting up from the kitchen,  my mouth is salivating, it’s almost a beautiful torment because I wanna stay cosy as toast in bed but my tummy is doing a drum solo & by 9 I’m there! there!!! at the table, fork in hand, ready to end the day’s morning ritual of “delicious agony!” Rob watches me as I eat as if he’s listening to his favourite opera! devoted people like to see the people they care about…HAPPY! “It’s a real pleasure, Cara, to watch you eat!” Rob says to me. You see, he not only is devoted but he’s ITALIAN & DEVOTED! & so, he LOVES to see me HAPPY & what’s more…he loves knowing that he is the source of that happiness!

And that’s why I have been away, not writing… I’ve been enjoying the pleasures of a French life with very Italian overtones!



Now that I’m back, I’d like to share some of our French/Italian adventures with you.  I promise you! our life together… is never boring! Oh, btw…I nearly forgot the unforgettable… Cognac, our dog! did I say dog?!!! Cognac wouldn’t agree with that at all! Noses-up! he whines “dog! ” well, he’s almost human, wink x

What’s in it for us? (Millennial & a Middle-Ager)





What does a young & gorgeously fit millennial have in common with me, a 52-year-old woman, currently visiting my 17-year-old son,  in Tasmania, Australia? (At the bottom of the world I might add!) Astonishingly, we have a great deal in common. We both love to keep fabulously fit by taking long walks. We love beauty, nature & exploring different landscapes. We both suffer joyously from a remarkable curiosity about not only our own world around us but also, the world at large.





We both love dogs. I have a furry friend called Cognac & we take long walks together all the time, when I’m at home, in France.  Hilary also dreams to go adventuring with a loyal little furry friend by her side. In fact, we love all kinds of animals! & I’m quite sure we share a certain madness for fun times & loads of laughter, too!


Hilary loves food, trying different little nooks that offer deliciously interesting dishes. And, so do I! I particularly enjoy Italian food & living in France, well…I’m blessed with cheese to die for! & really good wine! (Not to mention the pastries…)








Our life goals, our sense of adventure, even our love for taking simple walks as well as our bigger goals; to keep on travelling, meeting new people & meandering awhile in the local life of a particular different country & absorbing the ordinary day-to-day life, sights, smells, food & customs is something that will always make our lives extraordinary… bridging OUR gap, making our friendship, an ageLESS one!  & I’m quite sure we will meet up in France, perhaps enjoy some time in Paris together.

We both love art, are creative, share many interests. We both love to write. of course Hilary is savvier than I am when it comes to technology & I’m thrilled I can ask her for help when I need it in this regard. Growing up as a child in the 70’s we had many advantages compared with children today. We played outside with other children from our neighbourhood, our imagination gave birth to many creative games & of course the odd game of cricket now & then. It was a good time to be young &, we WERE young! Of course, I love technology, too! & really appreciate its place in my life.




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I’m a positive thinker. Positive thoughts feed my soul & keep my inner world fresh & vivaciously alive! & it can’t help but keep one looking youthful. Joy on a woman of any age, adds such a sparkle of youth to not only a woman’s heart but her face! It’s the most attractive kind of beauty because it doesn’t fade, it can be found on many 90-year-olds! Laughter lines speak of beautiful, happy memories, cheerful markers that say… joy etched itself in my smile.


I have a poet’s soul, so deeply sensitive to the profound beauty of life, people & what can be quite difficult at times…the feelings of others, their sadness or despair. I like to help others & so does Hilary. It’s perhaps the most meaningful thing we share & without a doubt the most rewarding & deeply fulfilling.

I love the way Hilary thinks, I like seeing life through the lens of her heart, she’s remarkably mature & has a beautiful vulnerability & openness which is so pleasantly refreshing. I think we’ve certainly ‘bridged the gap’ quite successfully & both feel the benefits of the different age blend. It’s a truly beautiful & rewarding one.








Here’s to Extroverted Introverts!

Yep! I’m one. I’m a self-confessed extroverted introvert, usually, my gregarious side is more notable after 2 glasses of red. BIG ONES. I prefer my introverted side, I know my face screams extrovert, it really does, but behind that cheery face is a quiet creature. Ssh! 15135808_1334712123226938_4629148617126843511_n I enjoy good conversation, a delicious dinner or a concert with an intimate group of friends. I’m funny. Quite a light-hearted cheery soul, really. But, I do enjoy the quiet ‘me’ & I get to spend a tremendous amount of time with her… Madame Moi. It’s just as well I enjoy my own company because if I didn’t, I’d be an unhappy little puppy. I enjoy music, love it, but I think silence is my soul’s favourite piece, let it play…

Maybe that’s the reason why extroverted introverts have such cheery loud, expressive faces because the introvert is ever-present with the DO NOT DISTURB sign fixed firmly around her soul. The extroverted side enjoys the party while the introverted side gets to be present but as an observer & an absorber, reading the event like a good novel & thus, enjoying it at a deeper level. Always retiring at just the right time, leaving the extroverted side to bounce along on just enough energy to do the big clean up after the guests have gone. They get on. They help each other. It’s an interesting partnership. The introverted side never wants to go out & mingle, however, the extroverted side insists & a happy compromise is made by leaving an hour earlier. It’s a good way to be. I like it. I’m never lonely. Both sides bring me balance & peace. At heart, I am the introvert. She’s my fave!