What’s in it for us? (Millennial & a Middle-Ager)

 

 

 

 

What does a young & gorgeously fit millennial have in common with me, a 52-year-old woman, currently visiting my 17-year-old son,  in Tasmania, Australia? (At the bottom of the world I might add!) Astonishingly, we have a great deal in common. We both love to keep fabulously fit by taking long walks. We love beauty, nature & exploring different landscapes. We both suffer joyously from a remarkable curiosity about not only our own world around us but also, the world at large.

 

 

 

 

We both love dogs. I have a furry friend called Cognac & we take long walks together all the time, when I’m at home, in France.  Hilary also dreams to go adventuring with a loyal little furry friend by her side. In fact, we love all kinds of animals! & I’m quite sure we share a certain madness for fun times & loads of laughter, too!

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Hilary loves food, trying different little nooks that offer deliciously interesting dishes. And, so do I! I particularly enjoy Italian food & living in France, well…I’m blessed with cheese to die for! & really good wine! (Not to mention the pastries…)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our life goals, our sense of adventure, even our love for taking simple walks as well as our bigger goals; to keep on travelling, meeting new people & meandering awhile in the local life of a particular different country & absorbing the ordinary day-to-day life, sights, smells, food & customs is something that will always make our lives extraordinary… bridging OUR gap, making our friendship, an ageLESS one!  & I’m quite sure we will meet up in France, perhaps enjoy some time in Paris together.

We both love art, are creative, share many interests. We both love to write. of course Hilary is savvier than I am when it comes to technology & I’m thrilled I can ask her for help when I need it in this regard. Growing up as a child in the 70’s we had many advantages compared with children today. We played outside with other children from our neighbourhood, our imagination gave birth to many creative games & of course the odd game of cricket now & then. It was a good time to be young &, we WERE young! Of course, I love technology, too! & really appreciate its place in my life.

 

 

 

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I’m a positive thinker. Positive thoughts feed my soul & keep my inner world fresh & vivaciously alive! & it can’t help but keep one looking youthful. Joy on a woman of any age, adds such a sparkle of youth to not only a woman’s heart but her face! It’s the most attractive kind of beauty because it doesn’t fade, it can be found on many 90-year-olds! Laughter lines speak of beautiful, happy memories, cheerful markers that say… joy etched itself in my smile.

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I have a poet’s soul, so deeply sensitive to the profound beauty of life, people & what can be quite difficult at times…the feelings of others, their sadness or despair. I like to help others & so does Hilary. It’s perhaps the most meaningful thing we share & without a doubt the most rewarding & deeply fulfilling.

I love the way Hilary thinks, I like seeing life through the lens of her heart, she’s remarkably mature & has a beautiful vulnerability & openness which is so pleasantly refreshing. I think we’ve certainly ‘bridged the gap’ quite successfully & both feel the benefits of the different age blend. It’s a truly beautiful & rewarding one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When it comes to AGEING, what’s in it for ME?

Have you ever sat somewhere with a childhood friend & lamented about how the years seem to be just flying by & the mirror doesn’t seem to be as kind as it could be these days? Yep, I have. After a few deep sighs & a couple of good laughs, you actually realize that wrinkles, laughter lines & even that muffin top belly have been the consequences of a most remarkable & interesting journey… life.

What do we get from growing older? A tremendously beautiful sense of dignity. We can look back on markers & years, quite an astonishing thought, really, that, because of one single choice, our lives changed. Because we chose a certain path, in a certain year and met a certain person, in just that certain little place, our lives changed.

I went overseas at age 17, I left Australia. I was green around the gills, and when I returned, 3 months later, my life had changed in so many remarkable ways, I got a good bout of the travel bug & off I went back & forth between Europe & Australia, my eyes wide open & my mouth, too! Lot’s of wow! wow! wow! moments. Because of that rather scary decision, at that time, (I chose to go overseas on a random holiday with my dad, & celebrated my 18th birthday in Venice, whoohoo!) I am NOW a seasoned traveler.

 

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I’m 52 years old. I celebrated my 52nd birthday flying over the Indian ocean, 2 years earlier I was in Germany for my 50th birthday, & last year, I was in France. I don’t have that fresh-faced youthful 17-year-old face anymore, but I do have a face I’m happy with, a face that speaks of joy, & joy on a woman always looks truly beautiful & beats the best face lift!

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Ageing, what’s in it for me? Laughter lines, a much-loved & proudly prized cesarean scar from having my wonderful son at 35 years old, some varicose veins from that pregnancy, too, sad times from divorce & so, a furrowed brow, perhaps. What does it all mean? It means I lived. To age means to experience life, & I am still using all the colored crayons in the crayon box! To age means to go through unpleasant times, sometimes heartbreaking grief & then use those tears to help others through their ‘journey in the valley.’5238093.jpg

The most wonderful thing about ageing is all the love you get to GIVE &  GET, & all that love needs time to bloom & grow. Like good wine or cheese, the years bring maturity & stability, to our relationships, marriage & family.

Ageing, what’s in it for me? Well, next time you are sitting with an old childhood friend, think of all the memories you have made together, the good & bad times shared. The years give us so much more than wrinkles, they have given us a remarkably beautiful sense of dignity & that’s a good reason to smile. Cheers x

 

 

 

 

Thrift Buy & Fashionably Thrive!

That’s me in Frankfurt, Germany, had walked all day & was feeling quite comfortably contented with myself on a bridge overlooking the legendary river Main. But, what’s particularly exciting about that pic is that super cool & very chic little black dress I bought, would you believe for an apple & an egg? (8 euros to be exact!) in a thrift shop, right in the heart of the city. It’s a good label. I bought a bargain, so call me BARGAIN QUEEN! because recently, as recent as last week, in fact, I bought in my all-time favorite shop ‘Down Under,’  a pair of Gucci glasses, authentic & just 3 bucks! Call me Bargain Queen! Because… I AM XimagesIt never ceases to amaze me the clothes  & accessories that women throw away! (Keep throwing them right my way, ladies!)I bought a platinum ring for 5 bucks in that same Australian thrift store & it was worth 6000 dollars!!! Noses up at Thrift stores, second-hand stores, Nah-uh! Not my nose! Thrift bought & fashionably thriving with my eclectic robe of all sorts, thank you very muchly! Grab a friend & spend the day doing a good thrift crawl. There’s nothing like a bargain to give you a fashionably good buzz! (Followed by cake & coffee, because a good thrift buy will keep those extra dollars in your pocket for other little treats.) Cheers X02-13-things-thrift-shop-wont-tell-you-new-clothes

 

“She threw away all her masks, & put on her soul.”

Confidence doesn’t come from what you wear. It’s true, a nice glam outfit helps, but eventually, that outfit has to come off & you are left with YOU. Be happy about that! I have stood naked in front of my mirror & faced myself, I wanted to wish those extra pounds away, I wanted to take ten years off my face, & what I had to acknowledge & do acknowledge is that I am who I am, warts & all, I am me. I am not perfect. That’s the key, fall in love with being YOU. There is no one on this planet like you. You are special. You are worth it! Don’t wait for others to give you that pat on the back or that praise from their lips, it all starts with how you talk to you. Adorn your inner self with the beauty of kind, gentle & supportive words. Clothes can’t do that.

I was talking to a woman the other day who has breast cancer. She is facing herself. I looked at this woman & thought…wow! This woman is truly beautiful. We sat & had a cup of tea together & as she spoke, I listened to her soul. There was such a mixture of fear, courage, tears & beauty, too. Her naked soul was openly exposed to me & she was frightened like a scared child. Everything she exchanged to me was real. Have we forgotten to be real?  Have we forgotten to have meaningful exchanges with people? To touch & comfort their suffering rather than just admire their outer garments! A truly genuine person revealing real feelings is very rare to find in a world that constantly bombards us with “Gotta be more, do more…you are not enough unless…” Bah! Don’t buy into it or you’ll never escape the knife of the plastic surgeon! YOU ARE ENOUGH! I think that is where it all begins, with YOU, not accepting the ugly, useless labels that society tries to slap on you. If you are 60 plus, great! Wisdom speaks from the lips of those who have walked this earth a little longer & what a fine adornment is that pearl of prudence, insight & respect, there is no outfit that can ever compete with such valuable qualities of the heart.

Personally, fashion does not dictate to me what I must wear year in & year out. I wear clothes that I like, I don’t follow the crowd & I prefer the truly timeless classics, a style that doesn’t date.

Just be your lovely self & KNOW you are lovely BEFORE you dress up glam! & when that outfit comes off, you will be left with you, someone uniquely special, someone who is real, who can be frightened, scared & courageous all at the same time. Collect real people, fake ones are a dime a dozen! In this life, when very scary things happen, you don’t need a glamour queen sitting across from you at the table, you do need someone who has got their real on way before they’ve ever got their fashion style on. Make up your inner wardrobe first, it is way more important than your clothes closet.  You can’t buy confidence, it can’t be found in a clothes store. Confidence is found within you, as you enjoy & appreciate the truly unique & beautiful person that you are.girl-2178157_960_720

The Scent of a French Woman

Long after one has forgotten what a woman wore, the memory of her perfume lingers. — Christian Dior

A French woman never leaves home without first applying a subtle dab of her favorite scent. It’s unheard of, it just doesn’t happen, it’s unthinkable! Beauty has a scent & French women are dedicated to wearing it.

I fell in love with the way French women choose their perfume, as if selecting a bouquet of flowers for a dearly loved one. It’s a highly personal affair & quite seductive to watch. & I have…from afar. They hold a bottle of perfume as if gazing at a lover’s hand.  Memories are held within that intoxicating potion, the light caress of a nose at the nape of her neck, followed by a satisfied, breathless sigh…

What are French women wearing these days?

I’m so pleased to say they are wearing my fav! Shalimar by Jacques Guerlain. It’s a deeply feminine fragrance, all woman! a heady mix of citrus/woody tones, it’s a romance!

 

Narciso Rodriguez for her. Men love it on women, enough said! (Ok, a very, very, VERY sensual perfume! And another one I love, too!) Coco Mademoiselle by Chanel. Quite an aristocratic scent, elegant, sophisticated & classy! And, Of course, Chanel No 5! Still a mysterious elixir of floral elegance, in a bottle. There are countless more potently beautiful mixtures! French women & perfume, they know it’s a very individual thing, they know the man they want to please. It takes a lot of lingering, just as a good scent should linger long, on a white linen sheet…pexels-photo-398069

 

 

 

The Little White Dress

 

 

The great thing about your little white dress is that it’s so versatile, you can wear or add ‘anything’ with it. I like to wear a blue denim jacket & leopard print flats with mine & add a funky necklace. You can dress your LWD up or keep it casual by adding accessories, like a light scarf or, a big bold vintage, beaded necklace. Turquoise goes awesome with it, as does a pair of fuschia heels or ignite it with burnt orange. You can buy one in a thrift shop or a high-end store, it’s just such a timeless, simple & elegant piece & absolutely fail proof. & when I’m wearing it, l always feel as fresh as Spring! on a hot Summers day! Cheers x

Get Your Fun, Flirty Fuschia on!

 

 

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I wear a little of this strikingly vivid, purplish, red color in all 4 seasons.  It looks particularly classy with a soft yellow-bIMGP2583 (3)rown, so sophisticated with white & just stunning with black. Fun & high-energy with turquoise & flirty with a yellow hue & complements beautifully with mint. Remember, a little, just a ‘touch’ always looks elegant. I wear my much loved, two-toned fuschia flats to death! (& shortly in need of a new pair) & my thrifted fuschia jacket was a bargain buy, again for an apple & an egg, someone paid for the brand name & I got to get the jacket for next to nothing! It’s a feel-good color, puts a spring in my step! So, go get your fabulous fuschia ON!