NOW is Tomorrow’s Memory Make it Memorable!

Each new day gives us a golden opportunity, a gift, something so precious & priceless…TIME. We get to remember what we do with that time & that’s the bonus! so make each day remarkable in some simple way, it could be in the way you commit to love & devote yourself to your family, your friends or to your dreams. When you open your eyes at the birth of each new day, the adventure, the chance to ‘discover’ is before you, another 24 hours of life beckons you to go forth & ‘ suck the marrow out of it!’

Do we discover this later in life? Unless some tragedy stabs you in the heart, I think we do, yes, sadly, we do. Why not when we are full of youth & dreams? because when we  are young, our feelings are young, ‘young feelings’  like a new born foal,  so busy learning new things, it’s a time of raw experience, crawling, walking, stumbling & getting up!  maturity is gained and that takes time.

 

The same question whispers at the dawn of each new day; what memory will you gift yourself  & those you love with on this fresh new day?

 

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Una noche más – Yasmin Levy & Yiannis Kotsiras  LOOK THIS SONG UP AND LISTEN TO THE LYRICS

This.

Cheers x

 

 

 

Life is the Greatest Journey YOU will ever be ON, sprinkle a little of the ‘uncommon’ onto it

There are many people living unexciting, monotonous lives. What’s wrong with that? Why should that be a concern? Well, it’s a bit like going to sleep every night & choosing never to dream, ever! just sleep without ever experiencing the surprise, pleasure drama and revelation that dreams convey.

For many, it’s uncommon to choose adventure over a false stability, a need of assurance that everything will be as it always has been & the need for it to continue on just so… Life is a journey and a journey involves movement.

Many people fear change. They feel safer if they don’t take any risks. The thought of going on an adventure terrifies. Choosing something radically different, something they have never known or ever done before is never on their agenda, they want to stay in the ‘known.’ They eventually become immune to asphyxiation symptoms: drowsiness, boredom, fear of something unknown inviting them to experience its energy.

&, a lot of people are reasonably content to live like this.

Are you?

 

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The saying goes, ‘life is short.’ But when we think of the many, many experiences we can have, enjoy & grow from, well, it’s unfathomable really, isn’t it? to just choose a life that is the same, day in and day out.  It’s a phenomenal way to think that by doing something different, hopefully something we normally wouldn’t choose to do or go, that this one thing could open up a whole new world & challenge us in the best possible way = to grow!

I encourage change. It’s ok to be afraid of it. Start of slowly, take one thing or do one thing or go somewhere different & all that stale caution will gradually wear off, as you’ll acquire an appetite for change &, in change there is adventure, sometimes risk but, oh, look at what you gain! Insight, maturity, new friendships, challenges &, a ‘word’ that has a deeper meaning than happiness… fulfilment. In short. SATISFACTION.

I like to think we were all given a crayon box to colour our lives in with &, by using all the crayons in the box, what an interesting life you’ll have! If we do interesting things (many of those things are simple, simple things! inexpensive even!) we become interested in life. To go through the motions of life day in and day out and to choose to live this way because it’s safe or comfortable means that something in us that could have been, or could have ‘come alive’ never gets a chance to emerge & enrich our world.

For instance,  there are many ways to travel without leaving home. I’m going to write more on  that tomorrow.

It’s exciting to be alive! &, you know, just as we season our food, to add just a little flavour, so too, there are many ways we can  season our life experience by adding something a little ‘uncommon’ to it. I’m doing uncommon things, (uncommon for me) in my life & loving it! more on that tomorrow.

Enjoy your weekend & make it remarkable!  by doing something interesting .

 

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Get those crayons out & start colouring your life in!

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Allow Your Future To Unfold…

We only ever have NOW! Today, today & TODAY. Tomorrow is always future. It means we never wake up & say “It’s tomorrow!” because our ‘now time’ is always a today thing! &, as we get older, we begin to understand how precious it is to value our ‘now time.’

I  just got back from having a cup of tea down by the river, it’s a beautiful, balmy sunshiny day.  Sitting by a still quiet river, too, gives me good reason to reflect deeply about life, the people who are precious to me & how nice it is that I got to live! & be alive, NOW!

I thoroughly enjoy the sweet & simple things of life & the abundance of curiously interesting experiences  that have come my way. I swing my arms wide open & invite TODAY in to saturate my soul.

 

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I do however, remember when ‘tomorrow’ & what it might hold, became quite a serious distraction, anxious thoughts invaded my mind, it was  a real ‘nail biter’ of a time!  The result? instead of smiles I wore frowns.

You see, worrying about tomorrow does that to you, it burns daylight on your ‘NOW’ time & before you know it, your tummy gets all tied up in knots about ‘what might be ahead’ & the joy of living has left, without leaving a note.

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I know. Anxiety just doesn’t up & leave. After all, it’s been a welcomed guest! So, how do you shoo it away? Well, why not grab a coffee & find a nice quiet spot in nature &  think  about  future anxiety, what it ‘doesn’t do FOR you’ but ‘does TO you.’

It doesn’t make you smile. It doesn’t welcome the spirit of ‘hope’ in like an old friend. It makes you want to stay in bed. Life is for living, not fretting underneath the covers.

It swallows your life up in fear. It steals your sleep & invades your TODAY time; your ‘NOW TIME.’ It’s a comfortless enemy of the mind & wreaks havoc on the body. Isn’t it true, that most things you & I have worried about have not even happened! the catastrophe was averted or things were certainly not as bad as you had imagined they would be &, yes, somehow there was always a solution. Something or someone turned up to save the day!

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Like an untrained puppy our thoughts can run out of control, resting on frightfully scary scenarios! So, just like an untrained puppy we need to train our thoughts not to dwell in the land of FRET & FEAR about the future ( a healthy concern is OK, I mean having an inordinate fear of what lies ahead! ) but replace anxious thoughts about the future by staying & living in the HERE & NOW. The future will UNFOLD. Let it. Cross the bridge when you really need to cross it. Spend time in nature, think about what it is you’d like to enjoy doing & go do it, TODAY! Enjoy living your life TODAY, your moments, NOW!

Read that book, go for that walk, take that journey, start that course or learn to play that guitar, NOW. It doesn’t have to be amazing, it can be as simple as having a cup of tea down by the river. Live your TODAY & it will reward you with a life well lived.  Let the future unfold…

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If you do that, you will likely end up being, one happy puppy!

 

Rock bottom, why there’s nothin’ to fear!

What do you mean there’s nothing to FEAR? Who in their right mind wants to go there?!!! Well, usually, in time, we all end up there for hopefully a short stay, did I write short? No, it’s never short, quite lengthy & you never climb out as you fell in. 14495399_180595942383577_4754047562079935923_n

It’s a place where you shut down, life has opened up all those painful tabs in one go & all those feelings that were denied a “hearing,” protest! because they are so tired & worn out & you collapse under the weight of all those tears that just wanna cry! You can’t fight it anymore! life is asking for some “catch up” time & when you deny it, it will demand it & then, just take it = Welcome to ROCK BOTTOM.

Are you there now? Are you heading there? I’ll try to take the fear out of the place for you. Rock bottom is a “core” experience, there’s nothing fake or phoney about spending time there, it’s a  place you grieve over whats been lost IN YOU. You’ve been filling that hollow space with “whatever” it takes to stop you drowning in what I call a “true sadness;” loss of some special place within yourself. Your need for approval may have led you there, an abusive relationship grabbed you by the throat & threatened you to STAY… ‘Just a little longer’ & false promises whispered ‘All will change soon, stay…’ & you did & change didn’t happen. Or, Loss, a significant one may have occurred & there was no time for YOU to grieve because you were too busy being the strong one. Rock bottom wrote your name down & waited patiently for you to check in.

You don’t just sort through everything quickly at rock bottom & then pick yourself up & off you go galloping along life’s highway. There is no energy, not at first & not until you listen to those tears that want to cry & you ACTUALLY let THEM! Fear will rush over you like huge gargantuan waves & you’ll wanna stay in bed with the blankets over your head, for a while anyway. But then, something starts to slowly take place, you wake up one morning & a little bit of strength is felt, just a little but it’s a different strength & it’s a stable strength & you know that you can trust it. It’s what I call “the climb.” You see you climb out of rock bottom, each bar you grab & hold with your new “different” strength exercises the new found trust & confidence gained by spending time & rock bottom, grieving, sorting & finally accepting & after you do that, you start “the climb.”

You never climb out as you fell in. You are not denying yourself your right to be heard anymore & if you are attentive to you, you won’t again. If you’re there now, remember, it’s not a permanent place, there is so much hope at rock bottom, you just can’t see it now as you haven’t entered ” The Big Sort!” but, you’ll get there, you’re on your way. We usually all spend a little time at Rock Bottom Lodge & we learn so much about ourselves while there.  How to never ever allow anyone, especially ourselves, to shove what we value under a dirty carpet.

You matter. That’s the beautiful goodbye message rock bottom leaves you with, just as you’re about to finish “the climb.”

Cheers x