What’s in it for us? (Millennial & a Middle-Ager)

 

 

 

 

What does a young & gorgeously fit millennial have in common with me, a 52-year-old woman, currently visiting my 17-year-old son,  in Tasmania, Australia? (At the bottom of the world I might add!) Astonishingly, we have a great deal in common. We both love to keep fabulously fit by taking long walks. We love beauty, nature & exploring different landscapes. We both suffer joyously from a remarkable curiosity about not only our own world around us but also, the world at large.

 

 

 

 

We both love dogs. I have a furry friend called Cognac & we take long walks together all the time, when I’m at home, in France.  Hilary also dreams to go adventuring with a loyal little furry friend by her side. In fact, we love all kinds of animals! & I’m quite sure we share a certain madness for fun times & loads of laughter, too!

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Hilary loves food, trying different little nooks that offer deliciously interesting dishes. And, so do I! I particularly enjoy Italian food & living in France, well…I’m blessed with cheese to die for! & really good wine! (Not to mention the pastries…)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our life goals, our sense of adventure, even our love for taking simple walks as well as our bigger goals; to keep on travelling, meeting new people & meandering awhile in the local life of a particular different country & absorbing the ordinary day-to-day life, sights, smells, food & customs is something that will always make our lives extraordinary… bridging OUR gap, making our friendship, an ageLESS one!  & I’m quite sure we will meet up in France, perhaps enjoy some time in Paris together.

We both love art, are creative, share many interests. We both love to write. of course Hilary is savvier than I am when it comes to technology & I’m thrilled I can ask her for help when I need it in this regard. Growing up as a child in the 70’s we had many advantages compared with children today. We played outside with other children from our neighbourhood, our imagination gave birth to many creative games & of course the odd game of cricket now & then. It was a good time to be young &, we WERE young! Of course, I love technology, too! & really appreciate its place in my life.

 

 

 

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I’m a positive thinker. Positive thoughts feed my soul & keep my inner world fresh & vivaciously alive! & it can’t help but keep one looking youthful. Joy on a woman of any age, adds such a sparkle of youth to not only a woman’s heart but her face! It’s the most attractive kind of beauty because it doesn’t fade, it can be found on many 90-year-olds! Laughter lines speak of beautiful, happy memories, cheerful markers that say… joy etched itself in my smile.

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I have a poet’s soul, so deeply sensitive to the profound beauty of life, people & what can be quite difficult at times…the feelings of others, their sadness or despair. I like to help others & so does Hilary. It’s perhaps the most meaningful thing we share & without a doubt the most rewarding & deeply fulfilling.

I love the way Hilary thinks, I like seeing life through the lens of her heart, she’s remarkably mature & has a beautiful vulnerability & openness which is so pleasantly refreshing. I think we’ve certainly ‘bridged the gap’ quite successfully & both feel the benefits of the different age blend. It’s a truly beautiful & rewarding one.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here’s to Extroverted Introverts!

Yep! I’m one. I’m a self-confessed extroverted introvert, usually, my gregarious side is more notable after 2 glasses of red. BIG ONES. I prefer my introverted side, I know my face screams extrovert, it really does, but behind that cheery face is a quiet creature. Ssh! 15135808_1334712123226938_4629148617126843511_n I enjoy good conversation, a delicious dinner or a concert with an intimate group of friends. I’m funny. Quite a light-hearted cheery soul, really. But, I do enjoy the quiet ‘me’ & I get to spend a tremendous amount of time with her… Madame Moi. It’s just as well I enjoy my own company because if I didn’t, I’d be an unhappy little puppy. I enjoy music, love it, but I think silence is my soul’s favourite piece, let it play…

Maybe that’s the reason why extroverted introverts have such cheery loud, expressive faces because the introvert is ever-present with the DO NOT DISTURB sign fixed firmly around her soul. The extroverted side enjoys the party while the introverted side gets to be present but as an observer & an absorber, reading the event like a good novel & thus, enjoying it at a deeper level. Always retiring at just the right time, leaving the extroverted side to bounce along on just enough energy to do the big clean up after the guests have gone. They get on. They help each other. It’s an interesting partnership. The introverted side never wants to go out & mingle, however, the extroverted side insists & a happy compromise is made by leaving an hour earlier. It’s a good way to be. I like it. I’m never lonely. Both sides bring me balance & peace. At heart, I am the introvert. She’s my fave!

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When it comes to AGEING, what’s in it for ME?

Have you ever sat somewhere with a childhood friend & lamented about how the years seem to be just flying by & the mirror doesn’t seem to be as kind as it could be these days? Yep, I have. After a few deep sighs & a couple of good laughs, you actually realize that wrinkles, laughter lines & even that muffin top belly have been the consequences of a most remarkable & interesting journey… life.

What do we get from growing older? A tremendously beautiful sense of dignity. We can look back on markers & years, quite an astonishing thought, really, that, because of one single choice, our lives changed. Because we chose a certain path, in a certain year and met a certain person, in just that certain little place, our lives changed.

I went overseas at age 17, I left Australia. I was green around the gills, and when I returned, 3 months later, my life had changed in so many remarkable ways, I got a good bout of the travel bug & off I went back & forth between Europe & Australia, my eyes wide open & my mouth, too! Lot’s of wow! wow! wow! moments. Because of that rather scary decision, at that time, (I chose to go overseas on a random holiday with my dad, & celebrated my 18th birthday in Venice, whoohoo!) I am NOW a seasoned traveler.

 

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I’m 52 years old. I celebrated my 52nd birthday flying over the Indian ocean, 2 years earlier I was in Germany for my 50th birthday, & last year, I was in France. I don’t have that fresh-faced youthful 17-year-old face anymore, but I do have a face I’m happy with, a face that speaks of joy, & joy on a woman always looks truly beautiful & beats the best face lift!

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Ageing, what’s in it for me? Laughter lines, a much-loved & proudly prized cesarean scar from having my wonderful son at 35 years old, some varicose veins from that pregnancy, too, sad times from divorce & so, a furrowed brow, perhaps. What does it all mean? It means I lived. To age means to experience life, & I am still using all the colored crayons in the crayon box! To age means to go through unpleasant times, sometimes heartbreaking grief & then use those tears to help others through their ‘journey in the valley.’5238093.jpg

The most wonderful thing about ageing is all the love you get to GIVE &  GET, & all that love needs time to bloom & grow. Like good wine or cheese, the years bring maturity & stability, to our relationships, marriage & family.

Ageing, what’s in it for me? Well, next time you are sitting with an old childhood friend, think of all the memories you have made together, the good & bad times shared. The years give us so much more than wrinkles, they have given us a remarkably beautiful sense of dignity & that’s a good reason to smile. Cheers x