There are many people living unexciting, monotonous lives. What’s wrong with that? Why should that be a concern? Well, it’s a bit like going to sleep every night & choosing never to dream, ever! just sleep without ever experiencing the surprise, pleasure drama and revelation that dreams convey.
For many, it’s uncommon to choose adventure over a false stability, a need of assurance that everything will be as it always has been & the need for it to continue on just so… Life is a journey and a journey involves movement.
Many people fear change. They feel safer if they don’t take any risks. The thought of going on an adventure terrifies. Choosing something radically different, something they have never known or ever done before is never on their agenda, they want to stay in the ‘known.’ They eventually become immune to asphyxiation symptoms: drowsiness, boredom, fear of something unknown inviting them to experience its energy.
&, a lot of people are reasonably content to live like this.
The saying goes, ‘life is short.’ But when we think of the many, many experiences we can have, enjoy & grow from, well, it’s unfathomable really, isn’t it? to just choose a life that is the same, day in and day out. It’s a phenomenal way to think that by doing something different, hopefully something we normally wouldn’t choose to do or go, that this one thing could open up a whole new world & challenge us in the best possible way = to grow!
I encourage change. It’s ok to be afraid of it. Start of slowly, take one thing or do one thing or go somewhere different & all that stale caution will gradually wear off, as you’ll acquire an appetite for change &, in change there is adventure, sometimes risk but, oh, look at what you gain! Insight, maturity, new friendships, challenges &, a ‘word’ that has a deeper meaning than happiness… fulfilment. In short. SATISFACTION.
I like to think we were all given a crayon box to colour our lives in with &, by using all the crayons in the box, what an interesting life you’ll have! If we do interesting things (many of those things are simple, simple things! inexpensive even!) we become interested in life. To go through the motions of life day in and day out and to choose to live this way because it’s safe or comfortable means that something in us that could have been, or could have ‘come alive’ never gets a chance to emerge & enrich our world.
For instance, there are many ways to travel without leaving home. I’m going to write more on that tomorrow.
It’s exciting to be alive! &, you know, just as we season our food, to add just a little flavour, so too, there are many ways we can season our life experience by adding something a little ‘uncommon’ to it. I’m doing uncommon things, (uncommon for me) in my life & loving it! more on that tomorrow.
Enjoy your weekend & make it remarkable! by doing something interesting .
Get those crayons out & start colouring your life in!
We only ever have NOW! Today, today & TODAY. Tomorrow is always future. It means we never wake up & say “It’s tomorrow!” because our ‘now time’ is always a today thing! &, as we get older, we begin to understand how precious it is to value our ‘now time.’
I just got back from having a cup of tea down by the river, it’s a beautiful, balmy sunshiny day. Sitting by a still quiet river, too, gives me good reason to reflect deeply about life, the people who are precious to me & how nice it is that I got to live! & be alive, NOW!
I thoroughly enjoy the sweet & simple things of life & the abundance of curiously interesting experiences that have come my way. I swing my arms wide open & invite TODAY in to saturate my soul.
I do however, remember when ‘tomorrow’ & what it might hold, became quite a serious distraction, anxious thoughts invaded my mind, it was a real ‘nail biter’ of a time! The result? instead of smiles I wore frowns.
You see, worrying about tomorrow does that to you, it burns daylight on your ‘NOW’ time & before you know it, your tummy gets all tied up in knots about ‘what might be ahead’ & the joy of living has left, without leaving a note.
I know. Anxiety just doesn’t up & leave. After all, it’s been a welcomed guest! So, how do you shoo it away? Well, why not grab a coffee & find a nice quiet spot in nature & think about future anxiety, what it ‘doesn’t do FOR you’ but ‘does TO you.’
It doesn’t make you smile. It doesn’t welcome the spirit of ‘hope’ in like an old friend. It makes you want to stay in bed. Life is for living, not fretting underneath the covers.
It swallows your life up in fear. It steals your sleep & invades your TODAY time; your ‘NOW TIME.’ It’s a comfortless enemy of the mind & wreaks havoc on the body. Isn’t it true, that most things you & I have worried about have not even happened! the catastrophe was averted or things were certainly not as bad as you had imagined they would be &, yes, somehow there was always a solution. Something or someone turned up to save the day!
Like an untrained puppy our thoughts can run out of control, resting on frightfully scary scenarios! So, just like an untrained puppy we need to train our thoughts not to dwell in the land of FRET & FEAR about the future ( a healthy concern is OK, I mean having an inordinate fear of what lies ahead! ) but replace anxious thoughts about the future by staying & living in the HERE & NOW. The future will UNFOLD. Let it. Cross the bridge when you really need to cross it. Spend time in nature, think about what it is you’d like to enjoy doing & go do it, TODAY! Enjoy living your life TODAY, your moments, NOW!
Read that book, go for that walk, take that journey, start that course or learn to play that guitar, NOW. It doesn’t have to be amazing, it can be as simple as having a cup of tea down by the river. Live your TODAY & it will reward you with a life well lived. Let the future unfold…
If you do that, you will likely end up being, one happy puppy!
Regrets! we all have them. Things you didn’t do & things you didn’t say or things you DID do & things you DID say! Regret follows like a heavy dark cloud pregnant with tears & sad whisperings of “If only I didn’t…” or frustrating groans of “Why did I say that!”
So, what’s to be done with that nagging voice full of lament, moaning as it drags its heavy sighs along the chambers of your heart, uncomfortably always ‘there’ never letting you forget?
Learn from it. Turn your regret into GROWTH. We all have done stupid things & have said things that can’t be taken back. All of us. It isn’t the best way to learn but it is a way nonetheless, life has its lessons &, moving on from past mistakes however burdensome the backwash, is sometimes the only way ‘some of us’ (I think most of us) LEARN.
In essence, LEARN from it, GROW from it, FORGIVE YOURSELF, & finally! MOVE ON X